Finding yourself in love is a magic that infuses every moment of your life with light–the kind that, until it was present, you had no idea was even missing. When the idea of marriage arises and your only question is “How soon can we do this?” you know it’s time to begin crafting the perfect proposal!
When it comes to planning and executing a beautiful and memorable proposal, many moving pieces must come together. After many years of bearing witness to and capturing countless proposals, I have constructed an ultimate proposal guide that should help you with every aspect. Let’s go through the process and all the little things you should know:
Choosing a Proposal Location
Choose a location that is meaningful, beautiful, and matches your relationship. I can’t stress enough how important this aspect of planning is, and it requires knowing your partner’s preferences without a doubt. Spend some time thinking about your relationship and what brings them joy.
This could be a place that is significant to you and brings your love story full circle, your partner’s favorite picnic spot for a sense of intimate sentimentality, or a once-in-a-lifetime grand gesture that will sweep them off their feet. Having photographed these sessions all around New York, New England and all corners of the world, I have a wealth of knowledge on what makes a proposal spot perfect and I am happy to share that with you!
Writing A Proposal Speech
Possibly the most daunting aspect of crafting the perfect proposal is the proposal speech. Here’s my advice:
Say what your partner means to you! Think about all the things you love about them and all the ways you are better because of them. Make it personal and authentic. Consider including stories or memories that are personal to your relationship–just make sure they aren’t too long! A moment of candid laughter or joyful tears not only makes your speech better, it will make your photos heartfelt and genuine.
One part of your speech that partners often overlook is the phrasing of the question itself. Will you keep it classic and say “Will you marry me?” or choose something more elaborate like “May I have the honor of being your husband/wife/partner?” Different phrasings will fit different couples, so think genuinely about which one will sound best with your speech.
If you’d like help writing your proposal speech from a true professional in the field of crafting incredible speeches, I suggest reaching out to Brian Franklin of Vows & Speeches for a masterclass collaboration. Here’s a wonderful newsletter I shared about his work and accomplishments.
Prepare for the Surprise
Find a way to get your partner looking and feeling their best. Taking photos that you love how you look in goes beyond wearing a nice outfit, it means feeling good from the inside out. The power of confidence and relaxation is severely underestimated.
This may include a gifted spa trip for a massage, facial or mani-pedi, though please encourage them not to try any radical skin treatments–nobody wants red and irritated skin during a pro portrait session. It could also mean booking professional hair and makeup services (for a “night out”) with some special planning to hide that it’s for a proposal. Or, a new outfit that lights them up with confidence could make all the difference.
You will also need to come up with an inconspicuous plan to get your partner where they need to be and dressed in a way they’ll be happy with when looking back on your pictures. These photos will be heirlooms and should spark joy, not “Why did you let me wear that?” I have many ideas on how to accomplish this, so reach out if you need inspiration!
While most people are aware of portrait sessions ahead of time and have time to prepare, proposals are meant to be a surprise to your partner. Taking steps to get them feeling and looking good without spoiling the surprise will infuse your images with happiness from all sides and ensure the memories are all joyous.
Practice Makes Perfect
Next, and arguably most important, is to practice your proposal speech. Read it, memorize it, and repeat it until you’re sure you won’t forget any part or stumble over your words. Consider reading the speech to friends or family, especially if they are close to your partner and will know them as well as you do.
At some point before the big day, practice the drive at the same time and day of the week so you’re aware of any traffic problems and parking issues. On the day of, avoid common mistakes like carrying a huge ring box in the pocket of your tight shorts, or acting out of character. For example, if you never wake up before 10 a.m. on a Saturday, a random sunrise hike is going to be super suspicious.
The Big Moment
Once you’ve accomplished all this, it’s finally time. Speak slowly and clearly, don’t drop the ring, and stand tall. Deliver your proposal speech, then experience one of the happiest moments of your life! As you and your love glow in the moments after, I’ll be right there capturing every smile, every embrace, every moment that’s filled with excitement and passion.
If you’re ready to book a proposal session with me, or you have more questions on crafting the perfect proposal, please reach out. I am so excited to be part of your story in some small way!
To learn more or to book me for your proposal, engagement portraits, or wedding weekend getaway, contact me here.
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